Intentional Investment

As I write this post, I keep hearing the chorus of Tears for Fears' "Sowing the Seeds of Love"replay over and over in my head.

It's so easy in the beginning of a relationship.  Passion overcomes you; you want to see each other all the time, you are up for talking on the phone all hours of the night, you daydream about each other, you have in mind where you want to go on your next date, you think about what your going to wear (yep - even you fellas plan what to wear!)

But what happens when this passion subsides?  Where do you go from there?

You have just graduated into the next level of your relationship.  You have grown comfortable with each other, which is a great place to be, but you have to remember to be intentional!  Passion is no longer going to drive your relationship - now YOU have to get behind the wheel and call the shots.  Now you have to Decide to find time, Decide to go out, Decide to get a babysitter, etc.  While it might feel mundane and lacking passion, these decisions are investments.  And when you choose to invest positively in one another a deeper passion will ignite.

Remember this on Date Night!  It is so easy to get to date night and be less than enthused by doing the same old thing.  Don't let atrophy set in!  Nourish your relationship through date night.  Choose to change your attitude for the better.  Choose to put a smile on your face.  Choose to find the little things that will make your mate smile.  Choose to go the extra mile.  Just don't let another ordinary date pass you by.